Our ego itself is basically who we are, how we self-identify but when it becomes exaggerated or over-inflated, it becomes a negative characteristic.
Someone with an over-inflated ego doesn’t really listen to their friends or their work colleagues or value their opinion. They place themselves above other people, and put their own interests above everything. Even when they do something nice for someone, they usually have an ulterior motive – to gain something for themselves. They love having the adulation of others.
An over-inflated ego usually starts with low self-esteem which can be the catalyst for an exaggerated ego. Under-estimating self-worth allows for the opportunity to boost one’s ego to a dangerous, anti-social level. The actions of someone with an over-inflated ego are evident – they do things to make themselves feel better, usually at the expense of others.
We should all strive for a “balanced” ego – we will be able see the world the way it really is, we won’t take criticism personally and as a result will not hurt by it. We will allow others to share and we will listen carefully to what they have to say. The result is a healthy social/working life.