Humility – a reality check!
We hear the words “empowerment” and “assertiveness” so often these days that humility or humbleness can be forgotten or considered a weakness.
The word “humility” means many different things to different people. To me, it means knowing my own strengths while understanding and admitting to my own weaknesses. It has become a vital part of my own personal recovery process. Yes, I can be assertive to get my needs met (provided those needs are healthy) but at the same time, humility demands that I be respectful and honest with myself and other people.
My sobriety cannot afford to allow arrogance or an over-inflated ego to stand in the way. These were my defense mechanisms when I was actively drinking and have no place in my recovery.
I have learned that with humility, I can admit that I don’t have all the answers and I am no longer afraid to ask questions fearing someone might think me “less than”. I can accept criticism without taking it as a personal attack. I am less judgmental and more empathetic and understanding.
Humility is not an easy lesson and it is not always easy to maintain. I admit I can fall back into old ways of thinking – I struggle at times with the concept of humility. But when that happens, I remind myself that there is freedom in having humility. I have much less internal (and external) conflict or stress in my life and what I have gained is what I value most – happiness and serenity.